Are You There, Readers? It's Me, Marissa!

Do you ever feel like you're talking to yourself? Bloggers, have you ever felt like your blog posts were seen solely by your parents and best friends (and you love them dearly for it!), but yet you couldn't seem to reach anybody else?

And then you think, Well, I AM blogging for myself, first, but if I ask for people to comment or share my blog, doesn't that seem like all I care about are numbers and pageviews and popularity? Ugh, it's difficult to be straight forward about much of anything without offending someone or coming off the wrong way.

Yes, I blog for myself. It is one of the things that makes me truly happy when I come home from a long day at work, or when I feel extremely homesick.

But what makes it so special is connecting with others. It allows my family and friends to come into my world, even when they can't be there physically, and it allows me to meet others and hear about their lives and realize that none of us are truly alone in this world. But I feel like I'm at a point where I'm not connecting with many others.

I've done the research. Tried to figure out what I needed to do to "promote my blog" or "get comments" or "find my authentic voice." I've added Comment Luv, asked questions, commented on other blogs (not to get readers, but because I actually have something to say or ask). I've waited, thinking patience and time might be the key. And sure, maybe I could invest more money into advertising, or time into link parties or blog forums, but I do have a full-time job and a life to live so I have something to even blog about. I'm realistic when it comes to my investment in my blog. So how do I get the conversation rolling?

Maybe you're reading this and rolling your eyes because you've been in these shoes and have seen how to gain readership and maybe I am coming off whiney, insecure, and/or naive. But that's okay. I am who I am and I would very much like to meet you. And you. And you! Might you stop and say hello?

If you have any advice for me, please don't hesitate to share! Every blog has started with one post, one comment, one subscriber, one lurker. And we're all here to help each other. That's what makes this blogging community so SO great.